Love, Sex, and No Regrets for Today's Teens$16.99, Paperback
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A counsellor of teens for nearly thirty years based in Colorado, USA, Elizabeth Clark was driven to create this book for parents - so that they had something they could pass on to their teen and (ideally) have a tool for initiating discussions on sensitive topics. In her research with teens and their world, she became even more aware of how things have changed for teens in the last ten years. Internet access to porn with its emotional disconnection in sexual encounters and distorted depictions of sexuality has lead to a whole range of disturbing consequences. In this important book, Elizabeth has devised a unique and very effective approach that speaks frankly to the younger reader without condescension or judgement. She has created a nineteen-year-old girl as the book's narrator. She warns and educates in a style teens will read far more readily than conventional, non-fiction self-help books. In this way, her narrator discusses privately and openly what she has learnt about attraction, feeling sexual, setting limits, abusive situations, respecting yourself and much more.
Elizabeth writes:‘Surveys of teens say they wish their parents would talk to them more about sex. Really. With all their access to everything sexual, why would they care what you had to say? Because most of the stuff they are hearing from movies and TV and porn are fantasies being sold to them as truths. And when they try and emulate these fantasies in real life, they are terribly disappointed and often injured by the experience. Most of them cannot put words to this. Most of them believe this is as good as it gets. Most of them silently think something is wrong with them because they are terrified or simply not enjoying it. I have known many barely eighteen-year-old girls who apathetically say they are finished with sexuality.’
Elizabeth encourages parents to read the book. ‘You can use the information to start discussions. You can also give the book to your teen when you feel they are ready.’ She says that they actually want to talk to us but find it hard. The answer, she has found, is to begin with small steps. First of all you need to create an opening. Ask them, as casually as you can, ‘So, what is going on in your love life?’ Love is a more respectful term to use than ‘sex life’.’